It happens to all of us; we all lose our tempers from time to time. A lot of the time it’s justified, of course. But most of the time, we’re being irrational. Everyone does it, and we’re aware enough of it to move on. But some of us struggle with our emotions more than others. Sometimes when we lose our temper, we become a different person. This is extremely unsettling for both the individual and the people around that person. Not everyone realises that this is an uncontrollable illness for a lot of people.
Anger and rage have the capacity to destroy your relationships, your career and your health. It is a knock on affect; you hurt the ones you love, you ruin your reputation at work, and this results in depression. If you suffer from uncontrollable rage, it’s vital that you take the necessary steps to get it under control. Failing to do so will ultimately alter and destroy your life.
Thankfully, there are a lot of things you can do you control your anger. For some, simply writing your feelings down each night will help. Men in particular can be poor at expressing their emotions. Writing them down allows you to express yourself without having to say anything or see anyone in person. Other ways to avoid the unpleasant outbursts include avoiding problematic situations, humour, focussing on problem solving and dealing with issues at their root.
These are useful tips for anyone trying to help themselves with their anger, but sometimes you need more. This is when it’s necessary to get some professional help with anger management therapy. This often involves cognitive behavioural therapy and talking to a counsellor. This will help you to recognise the self-defeating and damaging thoughts that lie behind your uncontrolled rage. This helps with coping with difficult situations. It helps you to resolve conflicts in your personal and professional relationships. You will deal with grief in a more effective and controlled way, allowing you to handle emotions and stress caused by illness, trauma or abuse. You will also be able to control the anger caused by pain, tiredness and other physical sources of anger.
Anger management therapy is a structured environment that may produce results faster than alternative efforts to control your anger. Because it is anger and rage that you cannot control, it is more likely that you might need someone else, a professional, to help you to control it and take the right steps. There’s a sense of helplessness when you cannot control an emotion. This sense of helplessness will evaporate when you take control, find help, and receive the right advice from someone who knows what they’re talking about.
You will identify the specific situations that cause your anger to boil to the surface. The awareness of your thought process will help you to prevent these outbursts because your therapist will help you to acknowledge and avoid the negative thought patterns, allowing you to take back control in your life.
Sometimes you can control these things on your own, but there’s no shame in admitting that you need help. When you do, anger management therapy is a highly beneficial and simple solution to a destructive problem. It can be hard to talk to someone’s face about your feelings. Zoom Therapy offers quality, professional therapy on a number of mediums, such as video and message sessions, so you can get the help you need online. This makes for a controlled and safe environment where you can tackle your problems anonymously.
Frank Gillespie has a Master's Degree in Counseling from LaSalle University in Philadelphia. He is a nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). He has provided therapy for over 23 years. During his career, he has helped more than 10,000 people move past their obstacles towards reaching their potential and fulfillment in their lives. He practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a warm and nurturing approach. In addition to being a therapist, Frank has been an adjunct college professor teaching social work, a clinical consultant, a clinical director, and a seminar speaker. Frank has recently retired from his full time practice to focus on a part time online practice. He is married. He enjoys listening to music, watching sports, power walking, swimming, reading and writing.