Addicted to psychic hotlines or contacting psychics excessively face-to-face? Always consulting the tarot? You are not alone. “Psychic junkies” is the layman’s term for those who are addicted to psychics. Those afflicted with psychic hotline addiction often have difficulty coping with uncertainty, particularly with relationships issues.
My research has demonstrated that it’s mostly women who ring the hotlines, but it is not uncommon for men to become addicted, too. The main reason for ringing the hotlines is to find out about a new relationship coming into their lives or if someone will come back to them. Other reasons may be about financial queries, work issues, or grief.
The criteria employed to screen for those who may think they have a problem with ringing psychic hotlines too excessively is based upon Brown’s criteria for gambling problems.
Many people who contact psychics also dabble into other forms of esoteric phenomena such as tarot card readings, angel readings, Ouija board, astrology, or past-life regressions. Most of these people would describe themselves as spiritual.
There is no criteria to predict who consults psychics. These people come from a range of economic backgrounds, careers, and educational levels. Shame is a big reason why many don’t go for help. There aren’t many counsellors who understand this addiction.
The main reason for developing this addiction is ambivalence about something. There’s a lack of confidence about decision making, low self-esteem, and an inability to be patient. Becoming comfortable with uncertainty, or ambivalence, is a key to overcoming this addiction. Once the sufferer is able to convince themselves that life will improve, they become empowered to make decisions and be patient. This frees them from the addictive behaviour and the need to rely on psychics.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy is one avenue to explore when treating this addiction. This involves understanding the cognitive processes behind calling or contacting a psychic and the internal and external triggers that start the behaviour. Internal triggers can be ‘why did he leave? I was so good to him’ and external triggers may, for example, be seeing a present he had bought you, or stalking him on Facebook.
Mindfulness techniques are also excellent ways to come to terms with ambivalence and look at the feeling it causes in a detached and non-judgemental way. You go into a relaxed meditation state and when you are fully relaxed allow yourself to view the situations that trigger the ambivalence. It also allows you to be detached from the uncomfortable emotion, so you feel like you are watching it from afar as if viewing a movie. Then you have the option to let go of that feeling. Replace it with a better feeling and a new situation in your mind. Then you plan how to carry it out. Some may also prefer replacing it with an activity that distracts them for a moment. This helps carry them through the momentary compulsion to ring.
In summary, addiction to psychic hotlines is a serious, common and growing affliction. The good news is that there are ways to stop it and help is available.
Frank Gillespie has a Master's Degree in Counseling from LaSalle University in Philadelphia. He is a nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). He has provided therapy for over 23 years. During his career, he has helped more than 10,000 people move past their obstacles towards reaching their potential and fulfillment in their lives. He practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a warm and nurturing approach. In addition to being a therapist, Frank has been an adjunct college professor teaching social work, a clinical consultant, a clinical director, and a seminar speaker. Frank has recently retired from his full time practice to focus on a part time online practice. He is married. He enjoys listening to music, watching sports, power walking, swimming, reading and writing.